Sometimes the behavior we’re trying hardest to stop is the behavior we’re giving the most… — @mike_on_parenting

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@mike_on_parenting's TikTok video "Sometimes the behavior we’re trying hardest to stop is the behavior we’re giving the most attention to. Your child whines → you explain. They argue → you negotiate. They refuse → you lecture. They have a meltdown → you spend 10 minutes trying to convince them to calm down. None of that makes you a bad parent. You’re trying to help. But from your child’s perspective, that behavior just became a very reliable way to get your attention. And attention is powerful. So start looking for opportunities to “build” the behaviors you actually want more of. Notice when they cooperate without being asked. Acknowledge when they handle disappointment well. Comment when they’re being kind to a sibling. Give attention to the moments when they’re listening, helping, waiting, or playing independently. You don’t have to ignore challenging behavior. You just want to make sure it isn’t getting all the good stuff from you. Because what gets consistently noticed, engaged with, and reinforced is more likely to show up again. Save this for the next time your building another frustration tower with your kid. #positiveparenting #parentcoach #parentingtips #calmparenting #PositiveParenting" has 2,183 views, 94 likes, 3 comments, 18 shares in the public metrics captured by this index. That is an engagement rate of 5.27% (likes, comments and shares over views). It was posted over two weeks ago and runs 55 seconds. It has been saved 32 times.

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The capture indexed here reports 2,183 views, 94 likes and 3 comments.

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Across the captured metrics the engagement rate is 5.27% (likes + comments + shares over views).

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It was posted on 2026-10-15, over two weeks ago.

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The captured clip runs 55 seconds.