When you say "Put your shoes on" and your child keeps playing, it can feel natural to giv… — @drdeborahparenting

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@drdeborahparenting's TikTok video "When you say "Put your shoes on" and your child keeps playing, it can feel natural to give them one more chance to respond. Each extra chance teaches your child to wait for you to say it again. Here's what to do instead. Decide the follow-through point before you give the direction. Get close and gain your child's attention. Say once: "Put your shoes on." Then pause for three seconds. That is their opportunity to respond. If they begin, let them complete the direction. If they keep playing, follow through immediately. Put the toy aside, guide them to their shoes, and have them begin. Now you have a settled rule. After one clear direction and one three-second pause, your response is due. You know exactly when to act. And your child can predict what happens after a direction is given. That is the First-Time Response Protocol from the Parenting OS. If you want the exact system for knowing when to follow through after your child ignores a direction, get the Parenting OS. #ParentingTips #ParentCoach #ParentSupport #ParentingCommunity #Parenting" has 16,781 views, 664 likes, 9 comments, 111 shares in the public metrics captured by this index. That is an engagement rate of 4.67% (likes, comments and shares over views). It was posted over two weeks ago and runs 1 minute 24 seconds. It has been saved 126 times.

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The capture indexed here reports 16,781 views, 664 likes and 9 comments.

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Across the captured metrics the engagement rate is 4.67% (likes + comments + shares over views).

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It was posted on 2026-09-29, over two weeks ago.

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The captured clip runs 1 minute 24 seconds.