I think the best relationships are the ones where being in love doesn’t feel like you’re constantly attending a serious relationship meeting. 😭 Obviously there are going to be real conversations, responsibilities, disagreements, and moments where you have to sit down and work through something together. But underneath all of that, I want to genuinely have fun with my person. I want us sending each other completely unnecessary updates throughout the day like “I’m at Target” as if this is urgent information the other person absolutely needed to know. I want random pictures with zero context, ridiculous voice messages, inside jokes that have gone on for so long neither of us even remembers how they started, and intentionally saying something we know will annoy the other person just to watch them react. 😭 I want to be able to call you late at night with absolutely nothing important to discuss and somehow we’re still talking two hours later. I want the kind of relationship where we’re lovers, obviously, but we’re also genuinely best friends. Because attraction is incredible, romance matters, and chemistry matters, but you’re potentially choosing somebody to do life with. A lot of life isn’t candlelit dinners and vacations. It’s grocery stores, traffic, laundry, waiting at airports, sitting around the house, running errands, figuring out what to eat, and telling each other stories about things that happened at work. Being with somebody who can make those ordinary moments fun changes everything. And the trust underneath it is what allows all that lightness to exist. I don’t want to spend our relationship investigating you, decoding your behavior, wondering whether you’re being honest, or constantly recovering from unnecessary drama. I want to know you’re loyal when I’m not there. I want you to know the same about me. I want us to be able to have separate lives without creating insecurity and come back excited to tell each other everything that happened. “No drama” doesn’t mean never having conflict either. Real relationships will have difficult moments. It means we’re not manufacturing chaos where there doesn’t need to be any. We communicate, fix what needs fixing, and then get back to being us. Because at the end of the day, I don’t just want somebody I can be romantic with. I want the person I can look across the room at during the most inappropriate possible moment, make one facial expression, and immediately know we’re both trying desperately not to laugh. — @deeploneliness_ TikTok