There’s something so difficult about explaining your type when what attracts you most isn’t something you can describe with a hair color, height, or specific physical feature. Because somebody will ask, “So what’s your type?” and expect you to say tall, brunette, blue eyes, athletic, or something along those lines. Meanwhile, you’re sitting there trying to explain that your type is somebody who remembers the little things you tell them, treats strangers with kindness, communicates honestly, and makes you feel like you’re genuinely important to them. 😭 Because yes, physical attraction matters, and there’s nothing wrong with appreciating somebody’s appearance. But there’s a difference between thinking somebody is beautiful and actually falling in love with who they are. You can meet someone who looks exactly like the person you always imagined yourself dating, but after a few conversations, realize there’s absolutely no emotional connection. And then you can meet somebody who wasn’t necessarily your usual physical type, start talking about life at two in the morning, and suddenly find yourself thinking about them throughout the entire next day. Not because they have the perfect face, but because something about the way their mind works makes you want to know everything about them. You notice how they speak about people who aren’t in the room. How they react when something doesn’t go their way. How they treat their friends when those friends are struggling. Whether they can admit when they’re wrong or whether every disagreement becomes somebody else’s fault. And slowly, those little observations start making them more attractive to you than any photograph ever could. Because there’s something incredibly special about somebody who makes you feel emotionally safe. Somebody who doesn’t make you question whether they’re interested because their effort is consistent. Somebody who can have difficult conversations without making you regret being vulnerable. Somebody who genuinely wants to understand your perspective instead of simply waiting for their turn to speak. And honestly, loyalty is one of those qualities that becomes more attractive the older you get. Not the kind of loyalty where somebody has to prove themselves through constant updates or sacrifice every friendship to make you comfortable, but the kind where their actions consistently reflect the commitment they’ve made to you. Where you don’t have to wonder whether they’re entertaining other options behind your back. Where you feel respected even when you’re not around. Of course, character takes time to understand, and nobody reveals their entire personality in the first few conversations. But that’s part of what makes getting to know somebody so beautiful. You discover new reasons to appreciate them as time passes. Their humor, their compassion, their ambition, their patience, their way of looking at the world. And eventually, the things that make them beautiful to you go so much deeper than their appearance. Because looks might make you notice somebody, but their character is what makes you hope they stay in your life. — TikTok de @deeploneliness_